Single Parenting

Whether it’s a just for a few days while your partner or spouse is out of town, a few months for extended trips, or if you are a full-time single parent, solo parenting can be very di cult. Here are a few tips that can help:

> Read the “Solo Parenting” Fact Sheet in English
> Read the “El ser padre a solas” Fact Sheet in Spanish

1. BUILD A COMMUNITY.

Having a trusted group of people to depend on when your child needs a ride to practice or a place to hang out after school can give you peace of mind. Building a support system is critical when you’re having a bad day — even if you just need to talk.

2. ACCEPT HELP.

It’s often difficult, but accepting help can be essential for healthy parenting. Sometimes getting the help you need is the most beneficial thing you can do for your own mental health. If someone offers to help you with a situation don’t be afraid to accept and never be afraid to ask for help. If it makes you a better parent, it will be worth it.

3. KEEP A STEADY ROUTINE.

This is a great thing to do, especially if you’re solo parenting on and off. Establish regular bedtimes, meal times and chores — it can help your child feel secure even when there are changes going on. It will also help you feel organized as well.

4. TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF.

It can be difficult to nd the time to recharge, but it is important. Go out with friends, talk to someone who supports you, enjoy exercise or a hobby, or simply spend some time alone. It will help you be a healthier, happier parent.

5. TREAT YOUR KIDS LIKE KIDS.

When your partner or spouse is absent, it can be difficult to not lean on your child for some support and comfort. Remember, though, that your kid is just a kid and doesn’t have the same emotional capacity that an adult might have. While it is important to be honest with your child about what’s going on, try to not overload them. When you need to talk about your own fears and frustrations, find another trusted adult you can speak with privately. Kids will follow your lead — focus on the positive with your family.